You may be required to give more and expect less to the relationship which over time can prove to be exhausting and unsatisfactory.
So if you are still not seeing this person seriously, consider whether you will be able to get emotionally involved with someone who requires long term treatment and support.
But back in New York, I’d left behind an orange bottle of purple pills. Lithium carbonate, the simple salt, reins in the “psychotic excitement” of mania, as the Australian psychiatrist John Cade found in 1949.
We were taking our first walk down the beach, having the talk that starts a new relationship. Scientists are still struggling to understand how lithium works, but we know for sure that it often does.
Because of what I found out about my wife after she went manic, how she probably has borderline personality disorder and probably "engineered" a personality for me and set up our "accidental" meeting, I get nervous over people that are trying "too hard". My one date so far, I got more comfortable every time there was a difference in opinion or interest. Its hard when you deal with bipolar and another mental disorder. Because my last spouse said we would be just friends but that was different. And my whole life has bad relationships, starting with my mom and dad.
I’d told anyone who would listen: “The minute that girl gets single, you’ve got to tell me.” Now she was, and we were guests of my cousin and his wife at their cabin in Maine. The day before, we had cracked lobsters by the ocean.
But feeling in love with everything made it hard to tell how I felt about her.
“The difficulty is the usual one,” as Virginia Woolf once wrote, “How to adjust the two worlds.
On the top bunk I woke early, thinking of weddings: the one where we met, the one I saw in our future.
Thoughts raced to whether our kids would have her blue eyes, or my brown.