“It’s like your biggest accomplishment is something you didn’t do yourself.”She wasn’t being rude; I’m not beautiful in the traditional sense.I have pock-marked skin, hooded eyes, and a bulbous nose.Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months: • The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.• The two most attractive women received 83% of all messages.• The two most attractive women probably would have received several thousand more if their inboxes hadn’t have reached maximum capacity.“I get that they’re not looking for love, but aren’t they trying to hook up? ”As it turns out, my good-looking friends aren’t completely out of touch.“Classically attractive” women have more difficulty online dating.
My eye color isn’t interesting, and my hair is always feral.
Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.” This is the double-edged sword of online dating.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
This means that 19 out of 20 profiles on these sites are either past members who aren’t around anymore, or non-paying members who can’t respond.
OKCupid was acquired by Match in 2011, and that article has since been taken down (for obvious reasons).